The Liz Moody Podcast

Fighting Can Make Your Relationship Better—If You Do It THIS Way with Drs Julie & John Gottman

Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman and Dr. John Gottman discuss their research surrounding couple’s therapy, relationships, and how to fight positively with your partner.

  • How having quality relationships can extend your life by 17 years
  • The 3 fighting styles & how to know which one you fall into
  • The 5:1 ratio you need to follow to have a successful fight with your partner
  • How to know if your relationship is healthy or unhealthy (& whether or not unhealthy relationships can change!)
  • The number one thing to never say in a fight
  • What the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse are & why they ruin relationships
  • Why you only have 3 minutes to create a successful fight
  • The Gottmans’ surprising thoughts on Love Languages 
  • An exercise to build more trust and happiness into your relationship 
  • What to do when a fight isn’t resolvable (and how to know when to break up)
  • And so much more

For more from The Gottmans, you can visit The Gottman Institute on Instagram at @gottmaninstitute or online at You can purchase their newest book, Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection online or wherever you buy books.

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Previous episodes referred to in this episode:

Ask The Doctor: Epigenetics Edition—How To Hack Your Genes To Increase Lifespan, Reverse Cellular Damage, & Fight Disease with Dr. Lucia Aronica

How To Be More Persuasive, Get What You Want, & Leave A Better Impact On Friends, Family, & Strangers with Vanessa Bohns, Phd

What It’s Really Like To Be Childfree By Choice with Ruby Warrington & Vanessa And Xander Marin

The Liz Moody Podcast cover art by Zack. The Liz Moody Podcast music by Alex Ruimy.

Formerly the Healthier Together Podcast.

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